In our episode marathoning life, John and I are just beginning the fifth and final season of Six Feet Under. This brilliant HBO series is one to put in my favorites list. I admire the way the series takes topics that we are conditioned not to talk about and puts it on the screen, most commonly death. The subject that is taboo to talk about, even though we will all die and within our lifetime, we will experience death around us.
This weekend we watched the season 5 premiere, A Coat of White Primer. Brenda and Nate finally get married, of course the day does not live up to a wonderful happy wedding. Brenda has a miscarriage just before the wedding. When Brenda's mom finds out, in an attempt to comfort her she says, "honey, more women have miscarriages than have masturbated with a dildo, they just don't talk about it." This is why I love this show, there is quite some truth to that, no one talks about having a miscarriage because it is so dam sad and there is conditioning to have shame about miscarriages. Moments later in this episode, Brenda imagines Lisa blaming her for the miscarriage. In my opinion, this is more often the messages that women get about miscarriages. That they have done something wrong or it is a punishment for previous sexual experiences. Oh how I wish that would change, It is quite common for women to experience a miscarriage for a world of different reasons. I would love to participate and see a paradigm shift where we talk about the had stuff death, sadness, masturbation and experiences with miscarriages, this would help embrace all experiences in our life.
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